As a soul on a journey, I’ve long ago realized that my perspective about life, experiences, situations and people is not mainstream thinking to say the least. People share their ideas and experiences and many a time I find myself thinking about the very same thing from a completely different perspective. Revenge for example, is one such topic.
Life Lesson 23 – Revenge
Most would define 'revenge' as 'getting back at that person' who has hurt us. As ‘giving a taste of their own medicine’ and feeling satisfied that we have inflicted suffering on that person who has made us suffer. You know ‘an eye for an eye’. Ahhh sweet revenge, giving the person what he/she deserves! Hmmmm.
Well here’s another perspective, see what you think ;)
Revenge isn’t ‘getting back at the person who hurt us’. On the contrary. The way I see it, revenge is nothing more than ‘allowing someone to have the power over me to turn me into the crappy person I must live with for the rest of my life'.
Let that sink in for a moment… There is someone who you have to live with for the rest of your life – YOU. When you seek revenge, you are not in actual fact ‘getting back at someone’; what you are doing is allowing that person to turn You into someone who is as crappy as they are! And that crappy person you become by repeatedly seeking revenge, is the person you have to live with for the rest of your life!
On the other hand, to liberate yourself from the mean/hurtful person, cut the cord. By not seeking revenge you rise above, you become a better and nicer person, someone awesome and noble and worth living with. You become someone who you like… and for someone who has no choice but to live with yourself forever, you might as well like who you are!
Who do you want to live with for the rest of your life? Do you want to live with the 'you' who is as crappy as the people who hurt you? Or do you want to live with the 'You' who is a mighty awesome person?
Gandhi once said –
The choice is yours, and mine. Dang, I’d rather ‘see’… how about you?