Hey! How about we take a stroll in the garden so we can continue that conversation we started yesterday?! :)
Life Lesson 5 – THE One
So imagine if I had to tell you that I know this awesome person who would be with you forever, no matter what… Someone who would never leave you, always be with you, through thick and thin and totally understand all that you have gone through and are going through right now. I bet you’d tell me, ‘Yes!! I want to meet this person!’ Perhaps you’re thinking that I’m going to sell you some fairy tale story… I assure you that I am not :) I am here to make you a promise, that this awesome person I’m talking about is THE one for you. This person I am talking about is _____________ (PLEASE INSERT YOUR NAME ON THE LINE)!
YOU, yes you are the one! You are the person who is never going to leave you. This is actually mind blowing if you think about it. Let me explain, referring to myself first, but as we’re walking and chatting away, imagine yourself got it? Okay here goes. So Ella is the one person who is always with me. I cannot ever change this reality. In truth, I can walk away from every single person on earth, and everyone can abandon me… except Ella. She will always be with me because she IS me. This realisation has immense power, enlightenment and potential. You see, we practically live our entire existence from ‘without’. Every relationship we have is with other people. We expect great relationships with our spouses, partners, friends, family and colleagues; but we almost never think of having a great relationship with ourselves! And because of this, practically all our other relationships end up being mediocre at some point.
So let’s imagine you are meeting yourself for the first time. Please do so right now. Hover above and take a bird’s eye view and imagine these two people meeting each other – ‘you’ and ‘You’ (perhaps I’m sounding mad, but entertain the thought and see where it takes you!) You will realise immediately that because ‘you’ knows ‘You’, you have to be completely honest! You can’t try to impress or wear a mask, you have to be genuine or else you’d know :P And so ‘You’ tells ‘you’ about life experiences and all that you’ve been through; the ups and downs, the hardships and joys, your strengths and talents and things you’ve achieved and things you’re proud of; your greatest mistakes and your most shameful experiences and failures… the light and the dark within you – everything, ‘You’ bears his/her soul to ‘you’…
And when you listen to the story, you naturally feel overwhelmed and touched by all this person has been through, because you understand exactly what it feels like when ‘You’ had that experience, passed through that thing… ‘You’ also shows ‘you’ talents, hopes, dreams, wishes, desires and goodness. When you see ‘You’ for ALL that he/she is, I bet you can’t help but say “Wow! This person is a hero! Look at all ‘You’ has been through and is still here, fighting the good fight!”
So now I ask you to consider this. Be honest with ‘You’ ;) how do you talk to ‘You’? Do you give ‘You’ a hard time? Are you negative and mean with ‘You’? Are you kind and loving with ‘You’ or are you bullying and harassing ‘You’?! What kind of relationship do you have with ‘You’?! Do you treat ‘You’ with kindness and compassion or do you treat ‘You’ like crap?!
As with all relationships, we reap what we sow. So let’s be frank here. This ‘You’ person ain’t going anywhere so you might as well start liking him/her! :) How can you live with ‘You’ if you don’t like the person? So how can you grow to love ‘You’? Firstly, give ‘You’ a break mate!! Stop being so critical and harsh and unforgiving whenever ‘You’ makes a mistake. ‘You’ is only human, every human errs, it’s in our nature, birds fly, fish swim, people screw up… accept it! If I fell over right now what would you do? You’d probably help me up and see that I’m okay… So do the same with ‘You’. And if someone had to come up to me and start calling me offensive and hurtful insults, you’d probably defend me wouldn’t you? (I hope so!) Same goes with ‘You’ – you cannot allow anyone to treat ‘You’ like crap, not even you!
Secondly, if there’s something ‘You’ needs to change or improve, help ‘You’ change it! Help, encourage, be a good friend to ‘You’! Whatever you would do with someone you love, do with ‘You’!
And now I’d like to have a word with ‘You’. STOP letting you or anyone treat ‘You’ like crap! ‘You’ deserve better than that! ‘You’ deserve true unconditional love, to be treated with respect, to cultivate your talents, to work towards your goals, to dream and live a good peaceful life… ‘You’ deserve well-being and you of all people have the power within you to give it to ‘You’!! So what are you waiting for?!
First seek to be THE one to ‘You’… then you will find the one, and be the one for others.
Now how about an ice-cold glass of iced tea?! :)
Blessings from Ella